"Help! My team don't respect me"
inc. The management respect paradox
Morning team,
Today we’re talking about a message I got from a manager in corporate last week.
She was CONVINCED her team didn’t respect her, wouldn’t listen, and didn’t care about hitting targets in general.
Before we get into it, let’s see a show of hands…
Being a young manager, when most of my team were older and way more experienced than I was, any time someone:
Turned up to a meeting 5 minutes late
Didn’t hit a deadline
Didn’t take my feedback onboard
My mind would race to “They just don’t respect me at all”.
I would probably then find some way to blame that person for their lack of respect or work ethic, and devoid myself of ALL responsibility somehow.
But over the years, many mistakes and learnings later, I’ve realised there was actually some truth in “They don’t respect me”.
And it was entirely my fault.