The 3 greatest lessons I learnt last year

I was writing this morning on my balcony with this view, and it got me reflecting on... What on earth did I do to get here

Here are the 3 most important things I came up with, lessons I've learnt recently that I need to share

1) 🚀 If you weren't ready, the opportunity wouldn't have presented its self in the first place

Growth doesn’t happen without feeling uncomfortable. Everything we’re looking for is just on the other side of that comfort zone of yours.
So when opportunities present themselves, whether you think you're ready or not, you have to grab it by the balls and run

2) 🚀 When you point a finger to blame, there's always 3 fingers pointing back at you
When we blame, it's usually an insecurity of your own that you're projecting onto others. Reclaim it, figure out what work you need to do to internally to grow

I was watching Bullet Train (film) recently. There’s a group of people stuck on a bullet train in Japan, and they’re all trying to figure out who the assassin (who they call Diesel) is that needs to be stopped and killed. 

There’s this one scene,  Brad Pitt is laid on the floor, and is Brian Tyree Henry is accusing him of being the guy they’re looking for. 

Brian Tyree Henry points at him and says ‘YOU’RE THE DIESEL’ . To which Brad Pitt says 

‘When you point one finger, there are three fingers pointing back to you’

A phrase that has strong philosophical roots going back thousands of years.

It even shows up in the Bible ‘Don't focus on the speck in your brother's eye while ignoring the log in your own eye’ 

The fancy psychoanalytic term for this is ‘projective identification’. We get rid of unwanted feelings (projection) and identify them as belonging to someone else (identification). 

Clinical Psychologist, Jennifer Kunst, Ph.D, calls it a shame relocation plan.

In Leadership, we need to regularly look in the mirror. Practice dropping our ego, and when we’re moving into any sort of blame mentality, analyse ourselves first before we move to others. 

When you’re starting to point a finger to blame, what blind spot or insecurity could you be projecting?

3) 🚀 You need to be obsessed with asking the right questions, instead of giving the right answers

I've had the honour of being around some of the BEST leaders in the game recently. Those people don't have all the answers. They ask those around them the right questions, to empower others to find the right answer

themselves

What great lesson have you learnt?

Let me know in the comments vv